Last month a man I’ll call Raymond died. He was 84. He had attended our church for six years, off and on, mostly on. His daughter called me on a Tuesday afternoon and asked if I would do the funeral. I said yes before I realized I could not tell you what Raymond did for a living, what his voice sounded like in conversation, or whether he had ever spoken to me beyond a handshake at the back door on his way out.
I spent the next three days making phone calls. His daughter in Raleigh. His neighbor of forty years. A man from his Wednesday morning coffee group at the Hardee’s on Merrimon Avenue. A woman from his church previous to ours, a Baptist congregation on the other side of town where he had been a deacon until some disagreement nobody could quite articulate anymore. I gathered facts, impressions, and a few contradictions. Then I sat down to write a funeral homily for a person I had not known well enough to eulogize, and I realized — not for the first time — that the hardest part was not finding the words. The hardest part was finding the structure.
I want to talk about that. Not about Raymond specifically, though his funeral is what set me thinking. I want to talk about the writing pastors do that nobody names as writing. The funeral homilies. The membership letters. The congregational histories for anniversary Sundays. The short pastoral summaries that go to deacon boards. The notes you write to families after a hospital visit, trying to say something honest without performing intimacy you have not earned. The annual report prose that tries to narrate a year of ministry without sounding like a marketing brochure or a confession booth. These are the texts that carry real pastoral weight, the ones that land in people’s lives at moments when they are paying close attention, and they are almost always written alone, at odd hours, with very little training and no editor.
I have been doing this work for twenty years, and I have never once heard a colleague call it what it is: narrative work. We talk about sermon preparation. We talk about pastoral care. We talk about administration. But the writing itself — the act of sitting down and constructing a piece of prose that will speak into someone’s grief, someone’s decision, someone’s memory of a congregation — we treat as a side effect of the real work. It is not a side effect. It is the work. And most of us were never taught how to do it.
The Funeral I Could Not Outline
Here is what happened with Raymond’s funeral. I had a page of notes. Born in 1940 in Buncombe County, worked at a textile mill for thirty years until it closed, widowed at 61, remarried at 68 to a woman who predeceased him by two years. He liked to fish. He kept a garden. He was quiet in worship but loud at covered-dish suppers. His neighbor told me he was the kind of man who would show up with a chainsaw after a storm and never mention it again. His daughter told me he had been disappointed by the church more than once but kept showing up anyway, which she said was either faith or stubbornness and she was not sure which.
What I did not have was a shape for it. I knew I could not stand up and recite facts. I knew I could not pretend to a closeness I did not have. I knew I had to say something true about a human being I had barely known without lying about the gap between us. But I could not figure out how to order the pieces. Which story comes first? Where does the honest admission of distance go — at the beginning, as a gesture of integrity, or in the middle, as something the congregation already senses and needs to hear named? How do you end a funeral homily for a man whose own daughter cannot tell you whether his churchgoing was faith or stubbornness?
I sat with that for a long time. I wrote three openings and discarded all of them. I eventually found my way to a structure that worked — I opened with the honest admission that Raymond and I had not known each other well, moved into the stories I had gathered from people who had known him well, and closed with the observation that showing up after disappointment is its own form of testimony, whether we call it faith or stubbornness or something the people who love us cannot always tell apart. It was not the best funeral homily I have ever preached. But it was honest, and the family thanked me, and I think what they were thanking me for was not the words but the sense that someone had taken the trouble to put the pieces together in a way that respected who Raymond actually was.
What I learned, again, is that the words were not the problem. The structure was. I had the material. I needed a scaffold.
The Anniversary History Nobody Asked For Honestly
A few months before Raymond’s funeral, our church council asked me to write a congregational history for our 75th anniversary. I said yes, because that is what pastors say to church councils, and then I spent six weeks avoiding the project. It was not that I did not know the history. I had been pastor here for fourteen years. I had read the previous histories, the ones written for the 25th and 50th anniversaries. I had boxes of old newsletters, photographs, meeting minutes, and a church directory from 1973 that listed professions next to names — a detail I found both charming and a little unsettling.
What I did not have was a way to tell the story honestly. Anniversary histories have a genre problem. They are supposed to celebrate, but a real congregational history includes failures, conflicts, seasons of decline, the time the youth minister left abruptly in 1989 and nobody will say why, the year the budget dropped 30 percent and the church almost closed. You cannot write a history that pretends none of that happened. But you also cannot write a history that reads like an exposé about a community that is still here and still trusts you with their stories.
I thought about a chronological approach — straightforward, honest, but with the risk of turning into a recitation of dates and pastor names. I thought about a thematic approach — worship, mission, conflict, community — but that felt like it would flatten the texture of how those things actually intertwined. I thought about telling it through the building itself, which has been added onto three times and still has the original pine floors in the sanctuary, but that felt like a gimmick that would wear thin by the third page.
What I eventually did was write it as a series of scenes. I opened with the founding meeting in 1949, held in a living room on Chestnut Street, because I had the minutes from that meeting and they were remarkable — twelve people, most of them in their twenties, voting to start a church with no building, no money, and no pastor. Then I moved to the building of the sanctuary in 1957, framed through the story of one family who gave the land. Then the turbulent years of the early 1970s, when the congregation split over whether to join a denomination. Then the long pastorate of Reverend Haley, from 1978 to 1996, which I told through the changes in the church directory itself — the addition of children, the loss of spouses, the new faces that arrived and the old faces that drifted away. Then my own years, which I wrote about more briefly and more carefully, because I am still in them.
The structure was the work. The facts were available to anyone who wanted to dig through the boxes. What I was doing was constructing a narrative that a congregation could recognize as its own — not a press release, not a confessional, not a nostalgia piece, but a story that held the complexity without losing the gratitude. That is pastoral writing. That is what I mean when I say we are doing narrative work and not naming it.
The Thursday Night Letter
Every week, usually on Thursday night, I write a pastoral letter that goes out to the congregation by email on Friday morning. It is short — three or four paragraphs. I write about what I have noticed in the life of the congregation that week. I mention someone who is in the hospital, without violating privacy. I reflect on a passage of Scripture I have been sitting with. I name something happening in our neighborhood — a school closing, a road project, a community event. I close with a short benediction.
It is the hardest thing I write every week. Not because it is long. Because it has to be honest without being performative. I cannot tell you how many drafts I have written that sounded like I was performing a version of pastoral life that I was not actually living. The version where I have been prayerfully meditating on Scripture all week when what I have actually been doing is visiting hospitals, arguing with the insurance adjuster about the roof, and trying to figure out why the church van will not start.
What I have learned over the years is that the letter gets better when I think about its structure before I think about its content. Not a rigid outline — it is four paragraphs, not a five-act play — but a sense of what each paragraph is doing. The first paragraph names something concrete from the week. Not a feeling, not a reflection, but a specific thing: a visit, a conversation, a moment in worship. The second paragraph widens the lens — connects that specific thing to Scripture or to the life of the congregation more broadly. The third paragraph turns outward — to the neighborhood, the community, something beyond our walls. The fourth is the benediction, which I keep short and which I try to mean.
This is a beat sheet. I did not call it that for years. I called it “the way I write the letter” or nothing at all. But it is a beat sheet, and it works the same way a beat sheet works in any narrative writing: it gives me a shape before I have words, so that when the words come, they have somewhere to land. The discipline is not in the prose. It is in the scaffolding.
What Pastors Are Actually Doing When We Write
I have come to believe that church leaders are constantly doing narrative work and almost never naming it as such. We construct stories for new member classes that frame what this congregation is and what it values. We write annual reports that interpret a year of ministry for people who lived through it but need help seeing the shape. We draft conflict summaries for deacon boards that have to be fair without being clinical, honest without being inflammatory. We write letters of recommendation for people leaving for other churches. We prepare funeral homilies for people we knew well and people we did not know at all, and both require us to build a story that holds truth and love in the same frame.
The Discipline of Structure Before Words
This is where I have found it helpful to think about the tools that professional writers use, not because pastors should write like novelists or screenwriters, but because the discipline of structuring a story before telling it is a pastoral skill, not a communications trick. The Authors Guild’s guidance on AI best practices for authors makes a point that resonates with this work: they argue that it is the writer’s original voice, thinking, and creativity that make the writing what it is, and that maintaining professional writing standards means preserving the human thinking that goes into writing, not just the output. A funeral homily generated from a template would lose the very thing that makes it pastoral — the fact that a real person who showed up, made phone calls, sat with contradictions, and took responsibility for what they said. The structure is not the replacement for that human work. It is the scaffolding that lets the human work take a shape people can receive.
Screenwriters have understood this for a long time. The craft of screenplay writing, as StudioBinder outlines in their guide to professional scriptwriting, rests on the principle that structure is the irreducible foundation — scene headings, beat sheets, formatting conventions are not tricks but disciplines that free the writer to focus on creative expression within a proven shape. That is exactly what I was doing with Raymond’s funeral, with the anniversary history, with the Thursday night letter. I was building a scaffold. The words came after.
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The Writing That Holds Weight
Here is what I know after twenty years of this work: the writing that holds weight in a congregation is almost never the writing anyone remembers. No one comes up to me on a Sunday and says, “That pastoral letter you sent on Friday — the structure of it really carried me through a hard week.” No one mentions the anniversary history at the potluck. The deacon board summary does not get quoted back to me at the Christmas Eve service. These texts disappear into the life of the church the way a foundation disappears into a building — you do not see them, but if they were not there, everything above them would sag.
I think about Raymond’s funeral sometimes. I do not remember the exact words I said. I remember the structure: the admission of distance, the gathered stories, the closing reflection on showing up after disappointment. That structure held the weight of a life I had not known well and a family I was still getting to know. It held the contradictions. It held the neighbor’s chainsaw story and the daughter’s uncertainty about whether her father’s faith was real or just habitual. It held because it was built to hold, not because I found the perfect phrase.
This is what I want to say to pastors who are writing alone, at odd hours, with no editor and no training: your funeral homilies, your pastoral letters, your congregational histories, your deacon board summaries — these are not administrative tasks. They are narrative work. They are the writing that holds weight in a community of faith, and the people who read them are reading them at moments when they are paying closer attention than they pay to almost anything else you say. The discipline is not in finding better words. It is in building a structure that can carry the weight of what you actually know, what you have actually witnessed, and what you can honestly say about the gap between the two. That is the work. It is the hardest work. And most of the time, nobody will mention it.